Monday, February 26, 2007
Hmmm.. I'm a small-family-unit kinda person. I never quite support my parents' idea of having their childrens' familes living together under 1 roof. I stand by the view that families may live as neighbours but that's the closest, for any closer will bring in family politics. It is a simple conclusion actually. Imagine getting married to somebody who never really know you until maybe 5 yrs before ur marriage. Imagine bringing him/her to live under the same roof as ur parents. Essentially, the upbringing of your other half is different from what u went thru. What your parents may view as appropriate might not be what your spouse thinks. After some time, friction may arise. Or if u see it from another pt of view, by bringing in another person, there must some sort of accomodation. Accomodation is part of human ability to adapt but ppl dun like to have to adapt in the very first place.
Here's a quote from Unbearable Lightness of Being:
"While people are fairly young and the musical composition of their lives is still in its opening bars, they can go about writing it together and exchange motif, but if they meet when they are older, their musical compositions are more or less complete, and every motif, every object, every word means something different to each of them."
The Origin. 2/26/2007 09:51:00 pm